Parenting - One thing that has the power to transform any human being

I stand in the path of transformation....

Parenting has been quite an intriguing topic of study and research for some,while a habitual way of being for some,a diligent responsibility for a few others...the views could be myriad in nature yet all leads to one thing --transformation of  human being

Calling it a rebirth would aptly fit-in here

Human beings over generations have been trying to instill,create, practice certain ways of parenting.

Needless to say these practices became beliefs over time,human beings are reborn in this phase..a profound listening gets created from within and it rings every moment

But in today's world ,parenting has been seen as a chore,supplemented with goods and wordly things to explore ..

I am not being judgemental at this point of expression but it leads me to rethink on our accountability to this very existence of each one of us

A few questions I asked myself was :

1. If i chose to really create a genetic combination and bring another human being to this world,does my job end there

2. Providing with all the play toys ,structures to keep the child occupied and gadgets to explore ,exposing them to too many things at the same time ,am I building a child of character ( this is quite a meaning here)

3. Creating values as some to do things without really enseeding it from within am i doing justice to this world

4. Juggling and dreaming to create life of abundance along with upbringing a child...what am i imbibing onto the future generation....

5.How well am I really being involved in every stage and conversation of the child fully without any to do list at the back of my mind

6.How much of time and space I give to the child without any intention of making the child know more or learn something and just be with the child

Even if I have a progressive thought to any of the above....I am on the path way of transformation .....

Kudos to the creator for having created such wonderful strategy(...now a logical mind needs a term to complete the thought)...... for ensuring human beings take birth,grow,thrive,think,create,recreate....and transform...


All our ancestors did create wonderful structures to keep ths journey to be quite an interesting one....Somehow the link has been smudged and today we are at the verge of seeing different disorders,issues with young children and parents...

My whole effort is to create this thread of link by learning,amassing the needed information,creating structures applicable to modern days and yet keep the base intention strong.....

As a mother myself ,am practising ,inventing,dscovering ...I know this is forever but sharing the same and re-creating it would be a good thing to do ..says my logical mind....

to continue....with stages of parenting and collective musings.....

A mom's musings

"jugglery" has started taking its course in my life now.
Now it is all about balancing ,what makes me really think is nature has its own precisely defined ways in terms of time and space to evolve every human being. I am experiencing the fact of "evolution" occuring every moment with every human being but in one;s individual pace.

Now has to got to do with "CHOICE",I feel certainly YES. We keep thriving to give her best in every chosen take of our lives. How far we succeed is embedded inside of our willingness to learn and acquire new skills.

Skills here I refer to life skills - ontologically most of the times.
My daughter has been my teacher nowadays.I am the one whose temper is simply on the run always.I am surprised to see my new avatar of  getting toned down ,learning what patience is.

Inside of this I realised that i had collapsed patience with compromise in my head.Hence hated being patient wrt anything in that regard.

I feel my processor in my head is running always without a break,planning,catching up with commitments,appointments,promises(as simple as baking a cookie for my munchkin),my ped meetings ,social beingness,parents,in-laws,online shopping,reading,entrepreneurial aspects, fightings with my hubby (which usually ends in not more than 10 minutes),visit to salon,spa,health conscious,diet planning,weekender...Uffff...the list goes on.


Yet I love this,I am happy to be  Working mother juggling with all these things and many more to get appended to this list on the vertical and roles on the horizontal ,wife,mom,daughter,daughter-in-law,grand daughter,friend,sister...hmmm i am loving it.

CHOOSING ones own life is the WAY to live.Creating small little joys at every given opportunity makes it even more interesting.

I thank my parents who brought me to this world ..the one I used to resist till now.

TRANSFORMATION in place....wow.

Expresso thoughteria....

It is quite sometime since I wrote last...
Now that means a lot of things have happened,happening...well time has not stopped.

I was re-reading my own posts and today my perception,view and expression is different...now should I admit i am evolving or there is more wisdom that helps me get the right things in the right boxes in my brains ...well I strongly experience this ..so must be true.

My roles in life have additions ...as  MOTHER.... now standing in ths shoes the whole world is not the same anymore for me.

I was just getting present to the fact that "life is on wheels,make the best of it"

Authenticity with thyself

Well, I am writing this in the middle of a serious work to be completed at office since it has been nagging me from quite sometime.
I always had this question about a few things which have just happened in my life in the past.
I always felt the burden of carrying something on my shoulders and yet seemingly pose to myself as "ALL IS WELL"
There was this eureka moment for me just a few seconds ago when I just got present to the fact of "acceptance of things the way they are and the way they are not".
When I told myself this there was another inquiry question,Is this justice to me and myself...the whole melodrama was about life from the age of 2 to age of 26,a sudden black and white movie flash back in 120 mm screen ....
When we are disowned by our own people,the 23 chromosomal pair recieved by us ,each pair constituted by parents 23 each relates us to the whole set of people who are members of this social institution called family which has its own decorum and also cynicism associated with it.(its free free free ****).This does not eman I dont respect families,I do but not the cynical ones :)

I was trying very hard to find out why ,how and what of the whole things in my life probably from the time I was six.Each time this child inside me opened up mustering all the possible courage in the world just to find a place for herself ,it supposedly became conflicts of ego amongst elders,in the race of acquiring more and more ,even at the cost of someone's life ,but never was answered.

Till the day I said to myself "Give it a damn",surprisingly this bondage just cant be thrown away,may be because of the culture and the upbringing which speaks of "prapithamaha pithamaha pitha eva ......"
Lineage speaks loudly.

Fine now as a human ,we definitely find another door being opened ,a new thought ,a new realm ,a new beginning..I began "forgiving" for whatever occured to me as offendable and not acceptable.
Yet question of "how long "and uncertainity cropped up ..this truly indicated my inauthenticity to accept whatever was around me.I was fooling around myself actually ...

As I was dwelling in this real uncomfortable space ,what cropped up was ,the expectation behind the minds deep inside the brains and heart of "being loved as a daughter,grand daughter and all the roles I have chosen to have and a few imposed on me to respect and abide by"

It is really tough to tell oneself that "look ,you are not being loved and that is the truth"For example,a child of 6-7 years walks around the house only to find that all her cousins are being showered with love and she simply walks around and yet not noticed by anybody around.When she grows up all her life struggling just to get some time of her people who supposedly were to be "her people",and then people see her as a big threat (unaware for what),competition,treated with cynicism and what not..well these are the ways people try to tell themselves the truth of their idiosyncrasy...it is really disgusting to see how people love being as POSERS ....

It hurts when people pose to an extent where they are ready to hide their most ugliest being ( for gain)
and it is comical to see them struggle in portraying that role newly taken on and pass this on to the next generation knowing or unknowingly(impact cant even be imagined).

I do enjoy being a passive observer when all this is going around because it is easy to fling stones at neighbours house when given an opportunity and the thinking machines in themselves is on a mental vacation.When the same reverses and yet stones not being flung the very imagination is so scary....and the reactions and replies happens to be the most hilarious one.

It is like I want to say "Enough is Enough" and I choose to accept the fact and tell the truth to myself that "love the people who love you "

This leaves me with so much of space and expanded horizon..probably as good as blowing the lid off...

Life moves on..making our own choices,living our own dreams,talking our own thoughts,growing at our own pace and winning in the game we take on..Now that is called POWER and FREEDOM...


Wow what a feel it is to be authentic...ironically we dont realise it.

Thank God ....I did it :)

Vision meeting

This day was the most memorable one for me because I saw myself with a group of the most respectable human beings who were also thinking like me ,wrt education,quality ,employability of Engineers graduating from the Engineering colleges in our state.

There has been so much of energy flowing in this direction of revival and reformation of the system on a bigger picture.History has always been a testimony that a time comes when reformers and thinkers will naturally co-exist when a big event or something radical has to occur.This has been in the interest of the equilibrium of the eco-system we live in,i see that now :)

Human beings also tend to follow this rule unconsciously.Right from the childhood being iinfluenced by radical thinking by my grandfather ,who was a reformer in whatever space he chose to be in,topics of reformation,change for the better ,interest to read articles ,newspapers related to such things have always excited me.

Being a cause in the matter towards reforming is an awesome feel from within.It just moves me and expands my way of being..this itself is a great being to me.

Today when Core team leaders body meeting was happening,I just sensed the enormous energy flowing in.None of us were worried about anything,no barriers in communication though we were all meeting first time for a meeting after the idea got fructified .I felt if every meetings and discussions we have can happen in such a space ,no matter what problem we are trying to solve will simply be a breakthrough .

What i observe is in meetings 90 percent of times we are simply trying to fit ourselves into that space and hardly there is that listening.What it takes to create this space free of all kind of "COBWEBS" imaginaryin nature so that human beings connect to each other so well that everything just looks possible.

My day looks so complete :) cant ask for more

Thank you all who were in the vision meeting for having caused this.

next post will be writing on "what it takes to be effective in meetings,out of my own learning and experience"

Naive journey of life.....sometimes on the rocks and other times on pebbles!!!

Lineage in a layman's language is anything gotten through the ages which makes a mark of itself in every act and behaviour of the individual-scientifically called as genes which have a predetermined performance.
However in a different school of thought I believe lineage has got to do with the culture and educational acquittance of doing something in a particular way gotten through ages.
I just happen to think about this topic while travelling last evening back from the office.
Life's journey is simply the most tantalising and simply beautiful one,except for that we are not nimble in our attitude to go with it,the way it is pre-destined to go about.
A small boy on the street standing there selling hot samosa's - a piece for Re.2 is hardly aware of the economy,recession.While the same me sitting in the bus resting my jaws on my hands a pensive mood in way as if the whole sky is going to come down in pieces the next moment and life is "THAT'S IT"...
What is that which marks a line of distinction between the two of us living in the same world,eating the
same food grown (may be in different places and in different ways),breathing the same air and yet the world of both of us seem to millions of miles apart..........
Does lineage play a role in this way of our being?
Why is this so ardent in our ways...common statements.."she is like her mom.."he stands with his dad..."
And a prenotion in people even before trying to understand the way the individual could be so different leaving behind everything of reference and make a name all by himself.
Should a cobbler's son be a cobbler?Why dont we all give a second chance to our thoughts before concluding on something?Are we humans so very mechanical that the desired output is fixed for a kind of a picture?
Lots of haunting questions......to be continued